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This book was born in the crucible of crisis. As I shuttled between Singapore and Penang, managing the care of my two aging parents—my 72-year-old mother, whose massive stroke in 1987 left her with a 37-year legacy of post-stroke depression, and my 82-year-old father, whose mind is being slowly stolen by Lewy Body Dementia—I found myself desperately searching for a framework that could make sense of the chaos. 

I attempt to weave together the rigorous insights of neuroscience and psychology with the ancient wisdom of Buddhist philosophy, creating a comprehensive guide for anyone navigating the treacherous waters of major life transitions.What began as a personal quest for understanding evolved into a broader mission: to create a resource that could serve both the general reader in crisis and the academic or clinical professional seeking a deeper, more integrated perspective on caregiving, aging, and neurological disease. 

Each chapter is built on a foundation of peer-reviewed research, drawing from the latest studies on stroke pathophysiology, post-stroke syndrome, dementia, caregiver stress, and post-traumatic growth. But the book refuses to remain in the realm of abstraction. Real case studies—including the published accounts of patients like "Mr. John," whose three-year misdiagnosis of Lewy Body Dementia as depression mirrors countless other tragedies, and the intimate details of my own family's "Penang Rotation"—ground the science in lived experience. The result is a work that honors both the complexity of the brain and the irreducible humanity of the person trapped inside a failing one.

At its heart, this book is an act of meaning-making, an exercise in the Japanese art of Kintsugi—taking the shattered pieces of a life and filling the cracks with gold. It is written for the daughter who has become her mother's keeper, for the son watching his father disappear into the fog of dementia, for the middle-aged adult caught between the demands of aging parents and their own unraveling identity, and for anyone who has ever stood in the presence of profound suffering and asked, "What now?" 

My hope is that this book will serve as both a lighthouse in the storm and a companion on the long road of caregiving and transition. It will not make the journey easier, but it may help you walk it with greater wisdom, compassion, and an understanding that even in the darkest passages of life, there is the possibility of finding not just survival, but transformation.